what is forgiveness?
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To forgive is to release the negative feeling or resentment or the need to revenge toward a person who did you wrong/harmed you. It is to let go of the hatred and anger within you. forgiveness.
Forgiveness is almighty, it is a choice, however trying to forget someone won’t be that easy for doing something wrong, you can’t just wipe them out of your mind but living in the past sucks. I see forgiveness as a way of forgetting the past even if it means I have not fully forgiven, but by doing that it would take you a lot of strength, and ability and willingness before you can totally say you have forgiven a person but life is too short to be mad at people, I know for a fact that holding grudges can be damaging for a person and forgiveness is a dedication, a process of change and a new start, a process between the soul and mind
‘Holding a grudge means that you are living with a feeling of anger almost constantly’
You should know that everybody makes mistakes and the usual ‘nobody is perfect’.
An essay indicates that forgiveness gives you the ability to wish them well with the peace your soul needs to let go.
“If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.”
When we forgive we have this overwhelming feeling to take revenge always resides in our heart which can cause bitterness and frustration, as a result, you could lose the people around you.
Ask yourself this before forgiving the person?
“Was what they did to lose my friendship so terrible and was it so bad that I should never forgive them and forget ever being friends with them?”
if yes and it ruined you, you shouldn’t forgive them but if u think u are overreacting about the situation then forgive them, on the other hand, if they weren’t that bad and terrible you should talk to them because there could possibly be a misunderstanding.
“How much pain do I have regarding the way this person treated me?”
My point is if they were treating you badly or made you uncomfortable about your own self, me attempting to be sarcastic, wipe them off.
“Have they negatively impacted your life?
You should know if they had impacted your life in a negative way you shouldn’t be with them because as mothers say ‘being with bad people could ruin you, your future, and reputation.
“What was life like for this person while growing up?”
What wounds did he or she suffer from others that could have made him or her more likely to hurt you? What kinds of extra pressures or stress when that person ‘offended’ you.
May you have a beautiful say, always hope.